So you want to be a cumdump…?
Every day we receive messages from guys saying “I want to be a cumdump” or asking “how can I be a cumdump?” While the answer may be simple, “Offer your hole to guys”, there is some preparation involved; logistically, physically and mentally.
There are a variety of “cumdumps types” from “No loads refused”, an open-door policy, completely anonymous or ones who instill some type of vetting; all of which are however you feel comfortable. There are no set guidelines and we’re a firm advocate of “Your body, your rules. My body, my rules” and if those align, it’ll be a good time. You want the tops to enjoy their time, but it’s important that you also enjoy it, if even that may be a mental stimulation of completely submitting to the primal activity of being used for sexual pleasure.
From a logistical perspective, being a cumdump is just a matter of making your hole available to guys, often without a condom, and thus a cum dump or depository of semen. You can be masked with the door ajar or even tied up and bagged with only your hole exposed (will obviously require a trusted friend to assist) or whatever position and does not need to be anonymous. The choice is yours as you’re setting the tone and scene.
Cumdumping isn’t for everyone, but it can simultaneously provide a sense of control (by choosing to engage in this scene) and also offer the ability to fully relinquish control (by simply being a hole that’s used for no purpose other than another guy’s sexual pleasure). In July 2022, Buzzfeed interviewed a few cumdumps including us that share more insight into the kink, which you can find here.
For planning a cumdump session, it’s merely a matter of picking a location (perhaps your own apartment/house or renting a hotel room – the main reason we started the list); promoting yourself through various platforms such as the CumdumpCalendar or FindaCumdump.com Map; apps such as Twitter, Grindr, Sniffies; or various groups/channels like Telegram. (Check out the post on flyer creation here.)
You’ll always want to ensure you’re mentally prepared for what’s to come… Does it excite you to have a random guy walk in, slide his cock inside you, unload and then take off? No names, no faces, no idea who it could be? How will you feel after this happens 15-20 times? You may not know how you feel about it until after the first time, but you’re not committing to this lifestyle by only doing it once, so why not try it?
Then, just make sure you’re prepared physically for the session, which includes properly douching. If you’re just going to take one dick, that can be a quick rinse-out, but if you’re preparing for multiple guys, you want to be clean to insure a good time. (Check out the post on properly cleaning here.)
Prior to cumdumping, it’s important that you know your health status, so it’s best to be tested for sexually-transmitted diseases and infections. This will provide a foundation for you in then being able to identify the possible date of exposure when your doctor determines a treatment course if necessary. If available, there are vaccinations to prevent both Hepatitis A & B as well as common HPV strains, so prevention is possible with some STIs. PreP also severely reduced the risk of HIV transmission and the use of DoxyPep can mitigate concerns for STIs in a ‘morning-after’ pill. Please talk to your medical professional about options to reduce your risk.
When setting up your cumdump scene, the only way you will enjoy it is if you feel comfortable, so you want to be able to focus on the enjoyment of pleasing the top and not your own safety or other concerns. (Check out this post on staying safe while cumdumping here.)
After the first time, some cumdumps may experience higher anxiety and possible regret. “What if the guy knew me and is going to tell others?” or “What if the guy had an STI?” You’ll never be able to answer these questions (and the latter question also exists in a ‘traditional hook-up’ scenarios anyways), so there’s no point in overthinking it. You’ve engaged in the scene and just need to decide, “Do I want to be a cumdump?”
From experience, it does get easier, more exciting and the thrill of it can often supersede the physical enjoyment of getting fucked. Knowing your hole is providing pleasure to random guys and the immediate gratification of them releasing their load because of your hole is what drives many guys to the cumdump scene.
Do’s & Don’ts
Do respect your own boundaries as you begin with the scene. At any point, you can stop and end it, whether that be for a physical reason or just because you’re uncomfortable. Your body, your rules!
Don’t play the ‘What if’ game with anything that occurred during the cumdump scene. It happened and the only thing you can do is learn and make changes for the future.
Do know your health status and get tested frequently in order to not only protect yourself, but the community overall.
Don’t let peer pressure dictate your decisions or have expectations as each session can be different for a variety of factors including even the weather. There are some “near-professional” cumdumps who are skilled in this kink and have no issues taking 70, 80, even 100 dicks in a day. Like anything, this takes practice and they’ve learned how to monitor their bodies and arrange the scene to allow for this. It’s not a competition, even with your past self.
Do commit to the scene once it’s arranged. If you keep setting up a cumdump scene and then cancelling last minute, guys will start to pick up on this and it’ll be harder in the future. If you have a legitimate reason (emergency, sickness, etc.), then it’s completely understandable.
Don’t be tattle-tail or try to ruin other cumdumps’ sessions. If you’re staying at the same hotel or see a group/event posted with location details, please don’t try to ruin it for them. nEveryone needs to be respectful of each other and trying to destroy it for others is actually going to damage the entire kink community as hotels become aware of the happenings at their establishments or curious guys decide to give up exploring the scene for fear of drama ensuing.
Do enjoy yourself. Once you’re fully comfortable with the scene, there’s nothing like hearing that door crack open and knowing your hole is going to provide pleasure to that often unknown guy!
With so many new guys exploring this kink, we’d love to hear your stories on how you started or why you cumdump in the comments below!
